The Return of Civility


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I don’t know if I’ll ever not be surprised at some of the conversations/comments I find on facebook.  Take today, for example – some very “loud” expressions and feelings publicly displayed for everyone to see, whether it was decrying a damaged relationship, “no one appreciates me”, or the sheer rudeness of comments because someone’s favorite was booted from American Idol (yes – this is surprising indeed!).  So I took some time away from the technology, and lost myself in some old-fashioned cleaning, inside and out.  While I was cleaning my office tonight, I found an article entitled “Why Civility Matters”.  There were a number of reasons cited for the “new normal”, like sensational media, lax standards, and the like.  There were also some suggested tools to counter the incivility, two which I found particularly interesting.  The very first on the list was “make a habit of practicing kindness, generosity and gratitude.”  The second was to invest in social relationships, especially giving time to personal conversations and face to face interaction.  Both suggestions were connected with a higher degree of happiness and health.

What do you think about these suggestions?  Do you find they help the ability to be civil in today’s world?



  1. Yes, I think that both are very good suggestions…. we don’t even talk to each other anymore?

    • Thanks for your comment, Candy. I had to also make a note on facebook that I am not singling out that site, as it happens too often in general. With shows like Jerry Springer and Dr. Phil as our examples, and the ability to send notice to anyone about anything in an instant, there is no self-censoring. It would be much easier if we had to face someone, wouldn’t it? 🙂

  2. There is body language, facial expressions, voice inflections, etc. that could truly change the meaning of the message…..

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